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It’s good to be a single parent

September
17

Single parents are as happy, if not more so, than married folks. At least that’s what Yahoo! Personals says in a new survey timed to coincide with the start of National Singles Week today.

Now, keep in mind that the survey was conducted by an online dating site, so the results may mirror that. (Note the Yahoo! plug at the end of the article). But I’m a big believer in making the most of what you’re dealt, and taking an optimistic view of life. So this may provide a boost for single parents who occasionally feel overburdened and down on life.

Here’s a newswire article with some of the details:

SUNNYVALE, Calif—(BUSINESS WIRE)—Sep. 17, 2007—Contrary to popular opinion, married (1) people don’t have the edge over singles when it comes to happiness. Just in time for National Singles Week (September 17 -21), a new survey commissioned by Yahoo! Personals and conducted by Harris Interactive® reveals that singles, including single parents, view themselves as more so or just as happy, financially secure, and adventurous as their married counterparts. Almost nine out of 10 singles (88 percent) say they are just as, if not more, happy than their married counterparts.
The survey also found that while single parents list finding someone as the most challenging aspect of dating, they face a unique test when deciding how to introduce a date to their children. Twenty eight percent of single parents wait until they envision a future with their significant other before introducing him/her to their children. At the other end of the spectrum, 19 percent bite the bullet and make the introductions when they first start dating.
“It has never been a better time to be a single parent and looking for that special someone,” said Anna Zornosa, vice president and general manager of Yahoo! Personals, the most visited online dating service. “Single parents are typically in a social circle filled with married parents. Online dating expands the dating pool, helping single parents find potential dates who are open to dating someone with children more easily.”
Single and Enjoying Life
The survey results about singles’ lives add context to a U.S. Census Bureau announcement earlier this year that more American women were living without husbands than with them, and a 2005 finding that for the first time, married couples had become a minority of all U.S. households.
When asked about how they perceive themselves in relation to their married friends:
• 88 percent of all singles surveyed say they are just as, if not more, happy;
• 81 percent feel they are just as, or more, successful in their career;
• 72 percent feel they are just as, or more, financially secure;
• 84 percent say they are just as, or more, open to new experiences; and
• 78 percent feel that they are just as, or more, physically fit.
The survey also showed that only 30 percent of singles feel that they are more self-indulgent than their married counterparts. In contrast, 39 percent of married respondents feel that they are just as, or more, self-indulgent than their single friends.
“Compared with their married friends, singles see themselves as getting more out of life,” says Caroline Presno, a psychotherapist, and author of “Profiling Your Date, A Smart Woman’s Guide to Evaluating a Man. “This study suggests that singles are seeing their lives as an adventure, and that they perceive no ’happiness gap’ compared to married friends.”
Bruce Willis: Most Admired Single Parent
Yahoo! Personals also asked single parents which single celebrity parent they most admire. Topping the list was Bruce Willis with 28 percent of the vote. The father of three received more than double the amount of votes as Reese Witherspoon, who came in with 12 percent. Britney Spears and Kevin Federline came in with an extremely low percentage of votes, with Britney receiving 2 percent and Kevin receiving 1 percent. Also on the list was Diane Keaton (6 percent), P. Diddy (5 percent), and Sheryl Crow (4 percent).
Sexy Sells! Singles Reveal Their Celebrity Favorites
Yahoo! Personals also asked singles which celebrity they would most want to date, and topping the lists were some of the sexiest celebrities in America. Out of the single celebrity males, People’s 2006 “Sexiest Man Alive,” George Clooney, received 20 percent of the single female vote for who they would most want to date. People’s 2005 “Sexiest Man Alive,” Matthew McConaughey, was not far behind on the list with 13 percent of the vote. Also included on the list: Andy Roddick (5 percent), Derek Jeter (4 percent), and Ricky Martin (3 percent).
When single males were asked which single celebrity female they would most like to date, FHM’s 2007 “Sexiest Woman,” Jessica Alba, topped the list with 28 percent of the vote. Jennifer Aniston was not far behind with 11 percent of the vote, Queen Latifah got 7 percent of the vote, and Jessica Simpson finished with only 6 percent of the vote. Also included on the list: Maria Sharapova (3 percent), Sandra Oh (1 percent), and Padma Lakshmi (1 percent), host of Top Chef.
About Yahoo! Personals
Yahoo! Personals was first introduced in the U.S. in 1997 and has grown to become one of the leading and most popular online dating services available. The service offers a large, dynamic dating scene where users can search for, meet and communicate with a variety of people. For more information, visit http://personals.yahoo.com.
About the survey:
The Yahoo! Personals Singles survey was conducted by telephone within the United States between August 16 and August 19 among 1,005 U.S. adults ages 18+. Results were weighted for age, sex, geographic region, and race where necessary to align them with their actual proportions in the population.
All sample surveys and polls, whether or not they use probability sampling, are subject to multiple sources of error which are most often not possible to quantify or estimate, including sampling error, coverage error, error associated with nonresponse, error associated with question wording and response options, and post-survey weighting and adjustments.
Therefore, Harris Interactive avoids the words “margin of error” as they are misleading. All that can be calculated are different possible sampling errors with different probabilities for pure, unweighted, random samples with 100 percent response rates. These are only theoretical because no published polls come close to this ideal.
(1) For the purposes of this study “married adults” are defined as U.S. adults ages 18+ who are married or living as a married.

This entry was posted on Monday, September 17th, 2007 at 10:58 am by Jorge Fitz-Gibbon.
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6 Responses to “It’s good to be a single parent”

  1. David V.

    I have to be honest; I don’t buy into this.

    Single parents that I know are stressed for time and short on money, and have a lot of guilt because they are less able than married parents to meet their kids’ emotional and financial needs.

    I don’t mean to paint with too broad a brush, but in general, I cannot view the increase in single parenting to be a positive thing for children or society.

  2. vivian2007

    I am a single mom to a 3 y/o boy. I am tired of being single mom. Really tough to live single life. I met a nice guy online through wealthyromance.com, he is a certified millionaire on that site. He asked me to eat out with him at the end of this week. I am really nervous. Anyone can advise?

  3. Jorge Fitz-Gibbon

    Vivian;
    Thank you for your response. I know first-hand how difficult it can be to be a single parent. That’s why I noted in my posting that the survey was sponsored by an online dating site, and may mirror that.
    As for online dating, I’ve done that as well. It is extremely common these days, particularly for single parents. I think woman in particular have to be selective and cautious on the sites.
    As for the date itself, I would ask why it is that you chose “wealthyromance.com” as the site on which to date. No one wants to date a pauper. But wealth strikes me as the wrong motivating factor if your ultimate goal is a lasting relationship that is compatible and rewarding in more significant and lasting ways.
    Anyway, relax and enjoy yourself. You’re looking for an emotional connection and comfortable, fun conversation. Your goal should be a night out with someone who makes you laugh, who you find interesting, and who responds to you in a gentlemanly and polite way.
    I don’t think anyone would be shocked to know that some men who date online have one goal. Establish your goals for the night and stick to them. Don’t compromise your standards.
    I would love to hear how it all goes for you. Good luck.

  4. vivian2007

    Jorge,

    Frankly speaking, I am not a gold digger. I divorced my ex-husband last Feb because I didn’t feel safe with him. We always quarreled about money issue. Sometimes I had to work very hard to feed the family. I understood I have to find someone who is fanacially stable. Only this way I will feel safe and comfortable. This July I was recommended to wealthyromance.com by one of my best friends who just got married with a member on that site in May, 2007. She is lucky. I believe I will be lucky too because my friends tell me that I am beautiful inside and out.

    BTW, the man who asked me out is a really nice guy. I trust him not only he is a certified millionaire on that site but he has verified information on that site according to its customer service.

    I will tell you how the offline dating goes later.

  5. Jorge Fitz-Gibbon

    Vivian;
    I didn’t mean to suggest you were a gold digger, if you took it that way. I just inquired about why you chose that dating site. You’ve explained. Thanks. Personally, I think income is nice, but not the best barometer of what will make a relationship last. That was my point.
    Let me now how it goes.

  6. kristy29

    i’m about 2 to 3 months away from having my son, nicholas. but alas, yes i am single again. i dont really want to be alone. yet i’ve found that guys still arent interested in someone with my kind of figure. is there any guys out there that DONT care about looks? if so, i haven’t found them yet. i’m starting to think i never will. ok well i’m going to sign off here’ i think i’ve brought the world down enough. see yas.

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