Comments on: Wanted: More parents http://parentsplace.lohudblogs.com/2007/11/07/wanted-more-parents/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:36:53 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jorge Fitz-Gibbon http://parentsplace.lohudblogs.com/2007/11/07/wanted-more-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-6841 Jorge Fitz-Gibbon Wed, 14 Nov 2007 20:23:31 +0000 http://parentsplace.lohudblogs.com/2007/11/07/wanted-more-parents/#comment-6841 David; Unfortunately, the system is poorly managed and the funding is misdirected more often than not. And the truth is that stripping some of their parental rights can be a tough call. But at some point there has to be a better system to make that decision one way or another while the kids still have a chance. As you've pointed out, the end result right now is that we've outsourced even adoptions. David;
Unfortunately, the system is poorly managed and the funding is misdirected more often than not. And the truth is that stripping some of their parental rights can be a tough call. But at some point there has to be a better system to make that decision one way or another while the kids still have a chance. As you’ve pointed out, the end result right now is that we’ve outsourced even adoptions.

]]> By: David V. http://parentsplace.lohudblogs.com/2007/11/07/wanted-more-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-6828 David V. Sat, 10 Nov 2007 12:27:03 +0000 http://parentsplace.lohudblogs.com/2007/11/07/wanted-more-parents/#comment-6828 I think a big part of the problem is that it takes so long for kids in foster care to be released for permanent adoption. Most people don't want to make a large emotional investment in a child, only to see the child sent back to his/her natural parents (well, usually only one parent) after she gets 'clean' for the 5th time. We seem to give very bad biological parents too many chances to get back on track, at the expense of their kids. Often, by the time a child in the foster care system is finally free for permanent adoption, he/she is older and has developed a lot of emotional problems due to the whole experience, on top of the awful home he/she came from. The system often victimizes these kids for a second time because it gives their natural parents so many opportunities to victimize them. For these reasons, adoption within the US has become a nightmare. There is no security or comfort for an adoptive parent to know that his/her parenthood won't be challenged by a neglectful or abusive biological parent at any time. This is one reason why so many people go through the terrific expense and inconvenience of adopting from Russia or China. I think a big part of the problem is that it takes so long for kids in foster care to be released for permanent adoption. Most people don’t want to make a large emotional investment in a child, only to see the child sent back to his/her natural parents (well, usually only one parent) after she gets ‘clean’ for the 5th time. We seem to give very bad biological parents too many chances to get back on track, at the expense of their kids.

Often, by the time a child in the foster care system is finally free for permanent adoption, he/she is older and has developed a lot of emotional problems due to the whole experience, on top of the awful home he/she came from. The system often victimizes these kids for a second time because it gives their natural parents so many opportunities to victimize them.

For these reasons, adoption within the US has become a nightmare. There is no security or comfort for an adoptive parent to know that his/her parenthood won’t be challenged by a neglectful or abusive biological parent at any time.

This is one reason why so many people go through the terrific expense and inconvenience of adopting from Russia or China.

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