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When is Blended Family Day?

May
13

Here’s a built-in problem in blended families: You never have the whole family together for Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.

There’s a simple reason for it. Namely, my son will always be with his mom on Mother’s Day (as he was earlier this month) and my girlfriend’s son will be with his dad on Father’s Day. So, we’re inevitably incomplete when celebrating our respective parenting days.

Kinda makes it hard to have the ideal family day.

Or does it?

Bethany Grey, editor at eHow.com, offered a list of suggestions for dads and stepdads to celebrate Father’s Day in a blog titled “How to Celebrate Father’s Day in a Blended Family.” I don’t agree with all of it, but some of Grey’s suggestions make sense, including the idea to shop for Father’s Day cards with the child. It’s a good stepdad experience to share.

Mostly, I like the idea of doing something the day before, something Grey didn’t hit on. This year, we grilled hot dogs and steak the day before Mother’s Day and had a picnic outside. It was fun and we did the family thing. I’m thinking we’ll do the same with my girlfriend’s son the day before Father’s Day next month.

One thing I’ve never wanted to do is give my girlfriend’s son the notion that I’m replacing his dad, at least not that way. This makes for something of a juggling act at times. But that’s a blog for another day.

This entry was posted on Wednesday, May 13th, 2009 at 10:35 am by Jorge Fitz-Gibbon. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed.
Category: Adoption, Blended families, Childcare, Divorce, Emotions, Entertainment, Family, Father's Day, Fatherhood, Growing, Holidays, Learning, Media, Mother's Day, Motherhood, Parenting, Single parents, Vacation, Values

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2 Responses to “When is Blended Family Day?”

  1. Steve C.

    hmm. But Mother’s day and Father’s day is for the child to show some extra love towards the one they call mom and dad.

    Sometimes it isnt about the whole family as much as the individual. Sometime the needs of the one outway the needs of the many.

    Just my 3 cents. being the ours, of a yours, and mine ours family

  2. David V.

    The same is often true when you’re married, in that you usually can’t spend the day with both mothers or fathers, so the same thing applies there in a different way.

    Family relationships are what we make them.

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